Restraining Order 911 is for Good Fathers
By Ron Lasorsa, The Children's Advocate | September 9th, 2008This is another in my series of video blog posts about the restraining order process. Since I have put up the site and released my new eBook, I have received a tremendous amount of feedback from women about the restraining order process and its actual purpose. I want to take the opportunity to respond here.
How my restraining order affected me:
When I was first hit with my restraining order, it shattered me. I had my children taken away. I was confused, upset and angry about the state of affairs. I got my first introduction to the machine called the Divorce Industry where people are poured in, chewed up, and spit out—broke, bitter, and disenchanted with the entire process.
In my effort to educate myself, I became associated with a number of father’s rights groups. I quickly found out that some of them could be perceived as anti-women. Don’t get me wrong, I was as angry at my ex as anyone could be, but over weeks, months, and years, I’ve come to take a different view.
Restraining Order 911 was created to help all families:
Restraining Order 911 and the other sites we’re putting out are not anti-women. They couldn’t be. It is my firm belief that men alone are not going to change the current state of affairs. The legal and political system has put in place a process that creates monetary incentives for breaking families apart. It is insidious, but it is nameless and faceless. The System doesn’t care about an individual case. If you happen to get sucked up into the process no amount of thrashing around will help. You’ll just get chewed up and spit out like everyone else. That’s it, it’s not personal. In that sense, during the course of my education I‘ve met plenty of women who have also been victimized by that same system.
Horrible ex-husbands exist. I’ve run across more cases than I care to mention where the ex-husband is a legitimate lout. He won’t pay child support and doesn’t want to be involved with his kids. These are not the fathers my sites were made for. This site and all my others have been put together for the good fathers. The ones that want to continue to be involved in their children’s lives and spend time with them. They don’t want to walk away
from their responsibilities.
There’s very little that educates individuals on how to advocate for themselves in a way that reduces the animosity between the parties. If you want to be adversarial in the process, you will continue to be involved in the system. It will feed off your anger. The result is you will both be broke and bitter and your children will suffer as a result.
Change is going to require the support and activism of second wives, mothers, daughters, sisters and friends– who know that separating fathers from their children contributes to major societal ills.
Because of this, I want to declare that:
I, Ron Lasorsa, the founder of Kids Come First Coalition, and any member associated with the Kids Come First Coalition, renounce domestic violence.
We are categorically against any sort of abuse—physical, mental, or emotional. If you are a perpetrator of abuse, seek help. We’re not here to assist you.
We’re here to help the vast majority of fathers who want to remain active in their children’s lives. We’re not anti-women. We are anti-divorce industry. And we are passionately so. I will, with my last breath, continue to fight the divorce industry as it awards money and incentives to break up the American Family, and damage the lives of innocent children.
Look out for my next blog, and best of luck to you.
October 10th, 2008 at 11:52 am
Hello patrons this information is as good as it gets! People you need this information so you can know how to succeed and not be crushed by the injustice of the family court system. If you do not know your rights and are not willing to stand up and fight for whats fair and just the system will trample you. I suggest you buy this information because it is well worth the price. An Attorney will cost you $200 or more an hour and will not inform you of the information that is produced here. Even if you have an Attorney you should be informed about your rights and the laws because even an Attorney is not always going to do what they should for you. It is important that you have this knowledge. I have done years of research and have never come across such powerful information to help litigants in family court. I hope you read the info on the site and purchase the books , this information can save you from years of unjust heartache. Sincerely Rog
October 15th, 2008 at 7:14 pm
First of all, a huge “THANKS!” for allowing people to post comments here. It’s a pain in the backside to monitor but super cool you are doing it.
The comment that the new attorney was “one in a million” is slightly inflated. Let me explain:
Family Law and Bankruptcy Law are the dumping grounds for those attorneys that cannot make it where the real money is. Consequently, you are attempting to find an “A+” attorney in a group where the highest grade on a good day is a straight “C” and the average grade is somewhere in the “D”s. You don’t know if you hit the jewel attorney in the 2nd interview or the 9th. That is why you have to do all 10.
The solution is to interview at least 10 and pick the best one you come across. Keep the name of the second best handy in case the first one turns out to be good at interviewing for your work but lousy in its execution (it happens).
Yes, buy the book and educate your self first. When you are auditioning attorneys (yes, that is exactly what you are doing), you will have some idea of what the right answer is. The book is excellent insurance against starting out with a $5,000 mistake that will take $10,000 to reverse. Bank some odds in your favor at the get-go by reading up on what’s about to unfold.
October 16th, 2008 at 4:23 pm
How to find that right lawyer to handle your divorce can be difficult. You need a lawyer that will ease your stress levels. If you don\’t have anyone contesting a marriage then you may just want to hire the same lawyer and get things over with. If you want to have a sensible divorce, you don\’t want to go with the high paid lawyers. Your friends will know a few lawyers that will be good candidates. A good lawyer will not hide anything. Some lawyers are known for being hard and so if that\’s what you are looking for, then you should go with a lawyer that everyone speaks of. You should also go with a lawyer that you like. It is important that you trust your lawyer. If you want a cutthroat lawyer, then make sure that have the personality to be, but if you just want to get it over with and be done than seek a lawyer who will go after what\’s fair.
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