Hi, Ron Lasorsa here!  I am the founder of the Kids Come First Coalition and a radical Child Advocate.

I want to talk for a moment about the divorce industry and my utter disgust at its current state.  This blog and my newly released eBookare part of my website:  Restraining Order 911hat provides support for men and fathers who are being taken advantage in their divorce and custody matters.  My eBook covers the top ten tips you need to know in order to stay out of jail, while my website gives you additional tools and information to protect yourself during a divorce.

One of the things I resent most about the Divorce Industry from my own experience is that they try to keep the average person in the dark. The citizens of this country should be able to clearly understand the rules by
which they are held accountable.  As I found out myself, restraining order laws are ridiculous.  They vary from state to state, and there are some very stringent requirements in terms of periods of time in which certain pieces of evidence are admissible.

For example, in my own case my ex-wife alleged that I made a threatening phone call.  Based on her affidavit, she said that the phone call was made after my visitation with my daughter while I was on my way out of town.  So there was an ex parte hearing that happened on one day and then I had seven days in which to respond.  My attorney at the time seemed to have made a reasonable attempt to respond.  What I did not realize is that I had 30 days after the time of the initial order in which to appeal and to question the original premise of the order.  Once those 30 days ended, I could no longer introduce evidence.

So 30 days passed, I fired my attorney and got a new attorney.  The new attorney and I gathered the phone records and they showed that, true to my claim, I did not make a call after the visitation.  The records

clearly show that I made other phone calls during that time, but not to my ex-wife.  The phone call she attested to in her affidavit never took place. I had to wait a total of 20 months to be able to introduce this evidence to prove my innocence.  All the while, my ex-wife and her attorney had the same evidence and they knew I did not do what they said I did.  But they stuck to their guns all for the purpose of keeping me separated from my children.  That is all.  It was a mechanism.  In the word’s of my ex wife’s attorney, it was “a more potent remedy to filing a motion to modify visitation.”

No mention of a substantial need for a restraining order, no mention of fear of me.  It is simply a way to circumvent due process.  This is why restraining orders are considered the nuclear bomb of the divorce industry.  It is an extremely frustrating process.

My eBook is meant to address some of these important issues.  It is not meant to cover every detail, but gives you the top ten tips. It starts to emphasize the need for individuals to advocate for themselves and
stand up for their own rights.

Restraining Order 911 and the other sites we are rolling out are going to focus on the men who are acting on their own behalf.  Not just to win, but to maintain contact with their children without an adversarial approach.  I went the adversarial route, and at the time, I did not realize the damage that could
be done to children.  Divorce screws kids up, and my purpose here is to let you benefit from my experience strength and hope so that you and your children do not have to go through the pain and suffering that I went through.

My site and eBook will help you stay out of jail until you can gather the evidence to exonerate yourself.  The other sites we are putting up will focus on different issues surrounding including custody, parental alimentation, and coping techniques, all with the focus on the best interest of your children.

I intend to release a substantial amount of content in the coming months and years.  As we organize our efforts, and educate ourselves on the process, we will be able to change the system.

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