In today’s blog post I’d like to talk about an interesting development that I found on YouTube. There’s a gentleman with a website called DaddyJustice.com and I wanted to give him a shout out because during the course of his own personal battle, which he describes as six and a half years and four-hundred thousand dollars, he has actually attained the rarest of animals in the divorce field. He fought through the process and won a perjury conviction against the mother of his child—a woman who had made false accusations against him. The website is DaddyJustice.com and he has an interesting series of videos on there where he chronicles all of his trials and tribulations.

Perjury and a False Restraining Order

So this week, I wanted to talk with you about why it is difficult to obtain a perjury conviction in a false restraining order or in the case of false accusations made against you by your partner. I’m referring to something called SLAPP (Strategic Lawsuit Against Public Participation). The Wikipedia definition of SLAPP is: “a lawsuit or a threat of lawsuit that is intended to intimidate and silence critics by burdening them with the cost of a legal defense until they abandon their criticism or opposition. Winning the lawsuit is not necessarily the intent of the person filing the SLAPP. The plaintiff’s goals are accomplished if the defendant succumbs to fear, intimidation, mounting legal costs or simple exhaustion and abandons the criticism. A SLAPP may also intimidate others from participating in the debate.”

Originally, SLAPP was created by the California legislature to solve an issue that arose between environmentalists and logging companies. The environmentalists wanted to file suit against the logging companies, but the logging companies with their unlimited funding and resources would simply file lawsuit upon lawsuit on the environmentalists to try to wear them down. So the legislature put in place this SLAPP provision so that the logging companies could not use lawsuits to try to silence their opposition.

Now, the divorce industry has perverted that process and said that in the case of divorce, the defendant could not file a perjury charge against their ex-spouse if they had a reasonable basis to feel that their charges were correct. So basically, my ex-wife could file any charge she wanted against me, with the only provision being that she feels she has a reasonable basis for them. Never mind that my due process rights are violated, and that I’m not allowed to countersue for perjury. The real kicker is that if I was found to have violated her SLAPP rights, I would be responsible for paying her attorney’s fees. And who decides if her charges have a reasonable basis? The judge, who is also part of the Divorce Industry.

The idea I’m trying to get across is that in the case of SLAPP, legislatures have granted it with a noble purpose of allowing activists to file charges against big business, but the Divorce Industry has perverted it and interpreted it to mean that a Plaintiff can file a domestic violence lawsuit without fear of reprisal or the defendant to file perjury charges if in fact the claims were untrue.

This is just one of the reasons why restraining orders are so tough to beat; and more evidence about how insidious the Divorce Industry is. They are willfully allowing liars to file false charges in order to separate children from their own fathers.

This is another in my series of video blog posts about the restraining order process.  Since I have put up the site and released my new eBook, I have received a tremendous amount of feedback from women about the restraining order process and its actual purpose.  I want to take the opportunity to respond here.

How my restraining order affected me:

When I was first hit with my restraining order, it shattered me.  I had my children taken away.  I was confused, upset and angry about the state of affairs.  I got my first introduction to the machine called the Divorce Industry where people are poured in, chewed up, and spit out—broke, bitter, and disenchanted with the entire process.

In my effort to educate myself, I became associated with a number of father’s rights groups.  I quickly found out that some of them could be perceived as anti-women.  Don’t get me wrong, I was as angry at my ex as anyone could be, but over weeks, months, and years, I’ve come to take a different view.

Restraining Order 911 was created to help all families:

Restraining Order 911 and the other sites we’re putting out are not anti-women.  They couldn’t be.  It is my firm belief that men alone are not going to change the current state of affairs. The legal and political system has put in place a process that creates monetary incentives for breaking families apart.  It is insidious, but it is nameless and faceless.  The System doesn’t care about an individual case.  If you happen to get sucked up into the process no amount of thrashing around will help.  You’ll just get chewed up and spit out like everyone else.  That’s it, it’s not personal.   In that sense, during the course of my education I‘ve met plenty of women who have also been victimized by that same system.

Horrible ex-husbands exist.  I’ve run across more cases than I care to mention where the ex-husband is a legitimate lout.   He won’t pay child support and doesn’t want to be involved with his kids.  These are not the fathers my sites were made for.  This site and all my others have been put together for the good fathers.  The ones that want to continue to be involved in their children’s lives and spend time with them.  They don’t want to walk away
from their responsibilities.

There’s very little that educates individuals on how to advocate for themselves in a way that reduces the animosity between the parties. If you want to be adversarial in the process, you will continue to be involved in the system.  It will feed off your anger.  The result is you will both be broke and bitter and your children will suffer as a result.

Change is going to require the support and activism of second wives, mothers, daughters, sisters and friends– who know that separating fathers from their children contributes to major societal ills.

Because of this, I want to declare that:

I, Ron Lasorsa, the founder of Kids Come First Coalition, and any member associated with the Kids Come First Coalition, renounce domestic violence.

We are categorically against any sort of abuse—physical, mental, or emotional.  If you are a perpetrator of abuse, seek help. We’re not here to assist you.

We’re here to help the vast majority of fathers who want to remain active in their children’s lives.  We’re not anti-women. We are anti-divorce industry.  And we are passionately so.  I will, with my last breath, continue to fight the divorce industry as it awards money and incentives to break up the American Family, and damage the lives of innocent children.

Look out for my next blog, and best of luck to you.

Hi, Ron Lasorsa here!  I am the founder of the Kids Come First Coalition and a radical Child Advocate.

I want to talk for a moment about the divorce industry and my utter disgust at its current state.  This blog and my newly released eBookare part of my website:  Restraining Order 911hat provides support for men and fathers who are being taken advantage in their divorce and custody matters.  My eBook covers the top ten tips you need to know in order to stay out of jail, while my website gives you additional tools and information to protect yourself during a divorce.

One of the things I resent most about the Divorce Industry from my own experience is that they try to keep the average person in the dark. The citizens of this country should be able to clearly understand the rules by
which they are held accountable.  As I found out myself, restraining order laws are ridiculous.  They vary from state to state, and there are some very stringent requirements in terms of periods of time in which certain pieces of evidence are admissible.

For example, in my own case my ex-wife alleged that I made a threatening phone call.  Based on her affidavit, she said that the phone call was made after my visitation with my daughter while I was on my way out of town.  So there was an ex parte hearing that happened on one day and then I had seven days in which to respond.  My attorney at the time seemed to have made a reasonable attempt to respond.  What I did not realize is that I had 30 days after the time of the initial order in which to appeal and to question the original premise of the order.  Once those 30 days ended, I could no longer introduce evidence.

So 30 days passed, I fired my attorney and got a new attorney.  The new attorney and I gathered the phone records and they showed that, true to my claim, I did not make a call after the visitation.  The records

clearly show that I made other phone calls during that time, but not to my ex-wife.  The phone call she attested to in her affidavit never took place. I had to wait a total of 20 months to be able to introduce this evidence to prove my innocence.  All the while, my ex-wife and her attorney had the same evidence and they knew I did not do what they said I did.  But they stuck to their guns all for the purpose of keeping me separated from my children.  That is all.  It was a mechanism.  In the word’s of my ex wife’s attorney, it was “a more potent remedy to filing a motion to modify visitation.”

No mention of a substantial need for a restraining order, no mention of fear of me.  It is simply a way to circumvent due process.  This is why restraining orders are considered the nuclear bomb of the divorce industry.  It is an extremely frustrating process.

My eBook is meant to address some of these important issues.  It is not meant to cover every detail, but gives you the top ten tips. It starts to emphasize the need for individuals to advocate for themselves and
stand up for their own rights.

Restraining Order 911 and the other sites we are rolling out are going to focus on the men who are acting on their own behalf.  Not just to win, but to maintain contact with their children without an adversarial approach.  I went the adversarial route, and at the time, I did not realize the damage that could
be done to children.  Divorce screws kids up, and my purpose here is to let you benefit from my experience strength and hope so that you and your children do not have to go through the pain and suffering that I went through.

My site and eBook will help you stay out of jail until you can gather the evidence to exonerate yourself.  The other sites we are putting up will focus on different issues surrounding including custody, parental alimentation, and coping techniques, all with the focus on the best interest of your children.

I intend to release a substantial amount of content in the coming months and years.  As we organize our efforts, and educate ourselves on the process, we will be able to change the system.